BY REBECCA EANESWhat determines how children turn out? This is the question on every parent’s mind. What can we do to give our children the best start in life and to ensure that they grow into kind, intelligent, and happy people? As parents, we all want to raise kids who:Are compassionateTreat others wellAre confidentThink for themselvesHave good valuesAre proud but not arrogantValue themselves and their abilitiesHave morals we respect and admireInterestingly, world-renowned relationship researchers Drs. John and Julie Gottman have determined two predictors for how children turn out.1.  Emotion regulation: The ability to understand and manage feelings2.  Social relationships: How children get along with adults and other childrenUnfortunately, very few parenting resources discuss these two predictors. Most parenting resources focus only on discipline, and that alone does not help parents reach these goals. Realizing that parenting is about so much more than a discipline method – that a big part of good parenting is teaching children emotion regulation – I turned to the Gottmans’ Emotion Coaching: The Heart of Parenting video program. Dr. John Gottman says that parents cannot accomplish all of these goals with discipline alone, and that this is instead accomplished through what Dr. Julie Gottman calls “Magic Moments.” These are moments