You’re angry because he forgot your anniversary – again.  You resent that she spends more time with her friends than with you.  There your parents go again – playing favorites with your younger brother. These all boil down to resentment.  You resent the other person for doing something that irks you. You set up expectations for other person and expect him or her to live by them.  But they don’t.  And now you’re pissed. It’s not that these are unrealistic expectations, but they’re your expectations.  Maybe you let the other person know about them or, more likely, you didn’t because you think that “everybody” would act the way you expect.  But everyone sees the world a little differently and makes up their own stories about whatever is happening based on their own history, personality and experiences. You resent that they’re disrespecting, not trusting or ignoring you.  You feel “right” about being mad at them because they “wronged” you in some way.  You reinforce your negative beliefs about them by subconsciously searching for ways to keep proving yourself right.  “There he/she goes again!” and the resentment grows. “Living with resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.” Resentment is a choice.  You’re